This world of dating after divorce or being widowed reminds me of trains. The Shanghai Maglev is the fastest train in the world and many in this newly single status are like the Maglev and cannot slow down their dating long enough to enjoy the ride. They speed through relationships and often fall in and out of love with the same velocity. Too often the Maglev's of the world remarry quickly only to find themselves in similar marriages or even worse, divorced again. On the other hand, The Glacier Express is the slowest train in the world and believe me, there are those in this single world who move at just that pace. Many of the men and women I have been meeting have been single for a very long time, some as long as 18 years. They spend a lot of time observing the scenery, too afraid they may miss something better just around the bend. How do we pace ourselves and become more like the reliable Amtrak? We have the ability to travel fast or slow, but we need to choose to keep a steady pace. Are we choosy as to who gets a ticket to ride, picking those we could imagine a long relationship with? We can't be too choosy though, knowing that there are often hidden treasures along our route. Sometimes what we may see as potential is replaced by disappointment after only a short ride. Yet, we chug along, making stops when necessary and letting passengers board once in a while. Many of us have the same goal: to get off the train! We want to find a destination and a fellow passenger to build a life with. This is possible but we have to beware to not jump the track because as they say: "you won't get your money back." Enjoy the journey.
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Despite how many times we have been hurt in this bittersweet life, our hearts were programmed for one thing: love.
It doesn’t matter if that type of love is friendship, family, self-love or even that for our pets. Love is not a singular feature though, and while there is a complex and stunning puzzle around most love affairs, the root and essence of lasting love is trust. “The best way to find out if you can trust someone is to trust them.” ~ Ernest Hemingway Trust is the foundation that we build our lives on, and it is a necessary ingredient in every aspect of our lives. We have to put trust in everyone that crosses our path; from the corner banker, to our mechanic, our child’s teacher, our employer, friends, family and of course our lovers. We have to trust that they are doing their jobs correctly, that they have honest intentions, and that they wouldn’t want to intentionally lie to or hurt us. When that trust is broken it sometimes becomes difficult for us to trust again, and sometimes it becomes impossible. But switching mechanics because we found out they charged too much for unnecessary repairs is very different from the type of trust we give those friends and lovers inside our inner circle. It’s those people that we’ve let into our inner most circles that have the ability to hurt us the most, because we have given them the map of our hearts. Trusting someone who is close to us though is not the same as thinking they are incapable of making mistakes. Trust means that we know even if we find ourselves hurt that the other person’s intention was never to do that, because we know they care about us and we value being a part of each other’s lives. To trust is not to be free from mistakes or hurt, but to believe in the connection between our self and another and the goodness of their heart. Some people trust better than others. Or maybe they just have more faith in the human condition to do that which is right and honorable. Maybe most of us are just hoping that those we trust have hearts similar to our own; crimson, open and exposed to the bright sun, so full of love that we could never imagine hurting those who have made a home there. To trust is to have faith. It’s faith in the heart of another; it’s choosing to believe that they would never want to cause pain or heartache if it was unnecessary. It’s letting that person feel the secrets and imperfections of our heart and believing that it will be safe with them. Sometimes there may not be any good reason to trust someone, and there may in fact be even more reasons not to. But trust has a way of sneaking in under the guise of violet twilight, smelling like fresh basil and lemons; it weaves itself in between the strands of our hair and among the stars in our eyes. It curls up like a satisfied cat in the sun and makes a home there. Even when our brains tell us it’s foolish, or when our egos try to remind us of all the times that it didn’t work out before, it doesn’t care. It stretches out even further and brings silence and peace to all the doubts that may ping pong around inside of us. Faith has the power to silence the loudest fears. I have a theory that people will live up (or down) to the expectations that we have of them. If we believe they are capable of lies, of living a life rooted in dishonesty and constantly question their every move or intention then they will more or less live down to those expectations. But, if instead, we look at someone with open eyes and an open heart and tell them that we have faith in them. That when they tell us something we simply believe them because we don’t think they would ever lie to us. If we continually present our most authentic self to them and they continue to show up in our lives, then not only will they live up to those expectations, but we will know that we are safe with them. And the trust is confirmed. To trust at times is to take a blind leap of faith. It’s believing someone when they say not to worry, and having faith that everything will work out exactly as it is meant to regardless of what that is. It’s learning that we don’t know if we can really trust someone until we take the chance and decide to. It’s choosing to hand them our hearts, our weakness, the secrets of our kryptonite, and then blowing a kiss to them over our shoulder as we smile and take that leap of faith. The faith to trust them. “You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens.” ~ Author Unknown Finding a good man, x-ray vision not required.
I want a man who makes me feel like the most amazing woman alive. He treats me with the care and respect I deserve; he loves our children in a way that melts my heart—and every single day I can thank God that I married this man. So what am I looking for in a guy? These 10 things: 1. Humor. Life has ups and downs, and dramas and supporting characters that we sometimes wish would vanish. So my guy should make me laugh. 2. Intelligence. Does my guy have to have an I.Q. better than Einstein’s? No, but he definitely needs to be able to relate to me on a mental level—and he should bring out my own curiosity and intellect too. 3. Physical fitness. My guy doesn’t have to leap tall buildings in a single bound—but if he takes care of himself physically, it’s a sign of self-respect. 4. Patience. Being in a relationship with me probably isn’t easy. I’m neurotic and hyperactive—and impatient. So I would be eternally grateful if I married a guy with the patience of a superhero. Trust me, if he has patience with me and my quirky qualities, it makes life that much easier. 5. Loving feeling. My husband needs to love me; truly love who I am inside and out. I want someone who really likes being with me. 6. Soulful. My guy needs to be spiritual. Being with someone with a spiritual nature is enriching to your life—and to the relationship you share. To love God first is the best way to be. 7. Commitment Lover. My ideal partner should show a level of commitment in other areas of his life besides me. 8. Good taste. Clothes and jewelry that are hand-picked by my husband not only show good taste, but that he cares. I don’t think that this has to be a requirement of a successful relationship—but it sure doesn’t hurt either. 9. Compliments. My perfect mate should spend more time highlighting what’s great about me than harping on my lesser traits; not because he’s blind to my reality, but because he loves me for who I am and knows that we live up to the standards that are set for us. In short, we grow to be our best selves in a nurturing, positive environment. 10. He doesn’t take your crap. Okay, so I do mean the above statement in number nine. However, that doesn’t mean my guy should turn his head if I treat him poorly, try to control him, or act in a way that’s beneath me. He should encourage—and if necessary demand—that I rise and shine to the occasion; that I be my best self. Life is challenging, and a great partner should make my life easier not harder. Finding a good guy is possible. I won’t give up the quest! I’ve seen a lot of these titles in the past year:
> Date a girl who practices hot yoga. > Date a girl who can sew. > How to date a girl who writes (my personal favorite). What we do (hobbies, work, roles) matters. It says something about our souls. But I also think that we can get too caught up in what we do when how we are matters more. So here is my version: Date a woman who knows the beauty of being alone. Date a woman who is hard-headed, who is not afraid to speak her mind, who can be stubborn and passionate and wants to have the occasional debate because she wants to learn how you think and how you see the world. She questions assumptions (including her own), explores ideas, breaks molds. She is naturally curious. She wants to be stretched. She wants to change your mind and she wants her own mind changed. Date a woman who knows fear, sorrow, loss. Who isn’t scared to get emotionally naked. She knows that her own beauty lies in knowing her true value (but now and then she forgets, and then you can step in to remind her). Date a woman who knows her way around her own heart and is not afraid to break it. She knows what it wants and she stands up for it with conviction. Date a woman who knows how to make real eye contact, because she values intimacy. She thrives on her capacity to build authentic relationships and surrounds herself with only this kind. Date a woman who knows that she loves at least one thing fiercely: her children, her work, her art, her trade, her garden, her animals. Date a woman who knows that taking/offering space to grow can sometimes be the best kind of love that one person can offer another, even when this means saying goodbye. Date a woman who you are unsure of at first, not because she doesn’t seem like enough but because she scares you a little bit in her realness. Yet she continues to surprise and challenge you in this very way every time you see her. Date a woman who knows how to laugh at herself, who might sometimes just crack the corniest jokes but they make you smile anyway. Date a woman who sees as much possibility in sitting in silence as she does exploring every nook: world, body, mind, soul. She holds a quiet confidence. She walks with purpose. Date a woman who knows that her heart is fragile. When it becomes too melty and heavy she might tuck herself away to feel better: let her. Then drop her a note or stop by with chocolate to lighten her up (she will need this but might not be able to ask for it). Date a woman who will drop everything in a millisecond to help a friend in need. Date a woman who knows that love is something that comes from inside, not something that she can ‘get’ from someone else, because she knows that she is loved. Date a woman who accepts herself today but (gently) pushes herself to be better the next. You will want to do the same by just being around her. Date a woman who understands the problems with being ‘too busy.’ Date a woman who is sure about this one thing: that we can never really be sure about anything. Because life is fluid. And each day she realizes how beautiful and scary this is, and so she humbles herself to it. She starts each and every day looking to learn, experience, create, teach something new, because she knows that this is what makes life (worth living). Date a woman who knows art and music. She may not create it herself but she needs it to move through her because it makes her (and the world) better. Date a woman who understands the value of taking a risk, who is not afraid of making a mistake because she knows how to pick herself back up after she falls. She’s ready to accept your offer to help her up the next time she does. Date a woman, not a girl. But when the little girl in her comes out now and then (and she will), you will still love her as the woman that she is. Be with—no, know--a woman who wants to understand herself a little better each day. She wants to understand you too. This morning, I read an article that highlighted the reasons people find themselves; or perhaps lose themselves in relationships that are not a good fit.
I noticed myself nodding in recognition as I ticked off the kinds of issues that I have seen as a student of psychology. They range from not knowing the person in the mirror well enough to being disillusioned by the person on the other side of the bed. Information for this post is drawn from how deeply and profoundly the concepts presented touch on my own journey. Married at 19, with a history of multiple relationships prior (yes, I know – how is that even possible, but it is true), divorced at 50, following a 4- year “separation,” I have been single for just over a year now. When contemplating a new relationship, I do experience a fear of loss and a fear of re-creating the worst dynamics of my marriage, analysis paralysis about what I did that contributed to some of the dysfunction in those three decades, regret and shame about some of my choices, raising my kids as virtually a single parent, re-inventing myself, busy-ness with life stuff, focusing on career building and at times, truly enjoying being alone and now that my kids are adults, making choices that primarily affect only me. I could second guess “If I knew then what I know now,” and beat myself up over all of the shoulda, woulda, coulda’s and believe me, I have. I would much rather explore and examine, from the perspective of being on the other side of the experience, not just what I want, but what I don’t want, even though relationship experts generally encourage focus on the positive. I am a believer, based on my own personal perspective that I need to clear the garbage of previous encounters in order to build anew. So many people create new relationships on the wreckage of old interactions. As Joe Jackson sagely says “You can’t get what you want, till you know what you want.” There are questions I didn’t ask myself in earlier years, and conversations that I wish I had back then. Of course this seasoned woman has had time and life enough to make these queries. Perhaps they would be helpful for you as well. · What do I truly want in a relationship? Not what someone else thinks it should be. Not family, friends or society. I’ll live with myself 24/7 for the rest of my life and if I choose to blend my life with another’s, that question is crucial. My vivid imagination conjures up images of a dynamic, ever-growing “third entity” that combines the sum of the parts of the two of us. At this point in my life, I have accumulated experiences and life lessons that I desire to share with a partner. I consider myself a wealthy woman since my friends and family are my treasures. The other person needs to have “been there, done that, got the t-shirt” too. Together, we share the wealth. · How do I define relationship? My current definition involves two people who have a common and merged vision, who communicate it openly and who take steps daily to strengthen and support that bond. Although my parents came from “different sides of the track,” with divergent socio-economic background, love and that intention sustained their 54 year marriage. A huge dose of love, fun, affection in word and action, co-creating wonder, thinking of the other person and what will delight them, shared responsibility for maintaining a household, flexibility, willingness to work through “stuff” when things get messy, taking time and space to breathe and respond, rather than react and attack, knowing that we have each other’s backs, open mindedness and openheartedness, creativity, play, spiritual practice, sexual nourishment, mutual support of each other’s dreams (even if they are not identical to each others’), are on my desire list. · What am I unwilling to accept? Control, abuse, addiction, emotional manipulation, my own co-dependent tendencies taking hold, selling my soul for love, financial irresponsibility, lying, expectation that I act as caregiver and primary emotional strength in the relationship and that I clean up the “messes,” literally or symbolically. It’s my take that relationship breakdown has a better chance of occurring because we don’t ask certain questions from the get-go and instead, make assumptions that love is enough to sustain it. This isn’t necessarily so. The questions to ask if you are face to face with a prospective partner and if asked of you, to be answered with naked honesty: 1. What models did you have for loving relationships when you were growing up? 2. What did you learn from them and what did you learn from those that weren’t healthy? 3. What did you learn about self-love? 4. How was love expressed in your childhood? 5. If you were a survivor of abuse, how have you done your healing work? 6. If addiction was present in your family, how has it impacted on you? 7. How do you want your relationship to mirror that of your parents and how do you want it to differ? 8. If someone disagrees with you, how do you face it? 9. When things don’t go the way you want, how do you handle disappointment? 10. How do you express emotion, most especially anger? 11. What was the best thing that ever happened in your life? 12. What was the worst thing that ever happened in your life? 13. How do you deal with change? 14. What brings you joy and satisfaction? 15. What are your values—particularly social? 16. How do you take care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually? 17. What is your take on child rearing when it comes to discipline and consequences? 18. How do you face loss? 19. When the inevitable dark nights of the soul occur, what sustains you until the morning comes? 20. What are your spiritual beliefs? 21. Let’s talk about our sexual desires, experiences and needs. I am a big believer in full disclosure; knowing that there is a difference between secrecy and privacy. Without necessarily disclosing the names of all previous lovers and interactions, it is important that a partner know if there are others still in your life. Safer sex practices are crucial as well. 22. If you were in a committed relationship that shifted, how has your heart healed and are you ready for a new one? 23. Do you remain friends with former partners? (By the way, I see that as a strength if the friendships are healthy and not fraught with jealousy and manipulation.) 24. How do you balance needs for “we time” and “me time,” so that you nourish yourself as well as the relationship? 25. How do you use your resources…saver, spender, and sharer with money, time and energy? 26. Do you want a relationship, or do you need a relationship? 27. Who are you without one? Of course, these are inquiries that take place over time and not all at once on a first date. No need to scare away all your prospects. An Ode to Relationships.
“Relationships exist for a reason, a season or a lifetime.” ~ Unknown If we measure relationships by this sentiment, we are never disappointed when they end because we understand every connection has significance. The ending of a relationship should not be defined as a failure, it should be recognized as a lesson—a lesson imparted by the teachings of the relationship. I read a story recently about a young woman who lost her life. Her friends described her as: “a person who collected friends.” I don’t think this young woman kept in contact with every person she befriended, but she honored every relationship despite its ending. We collect the energy from the people who surround us, just as we inhale and exhale. Our entire existence is a collection of breath. We cannot hold onto the last breath we took, yet that breath will carry us to our present breath. A person’s physical presence may or may not last within our life, but the knowledge he or she donates from the experiences we share together (positive or negative) remains with us, just like our breath. When my ex-husband and I decided to separate, people reacted with sadness, pity, disappointment and anger. We assume relationships end because something went wrong; one or both members of the partnership were unfaithful, disloyal and untruthful. Whether this occurs within a relationship or not, there is one commonality in every relationship; relationships end because one or the other does not want to continue, because what two people were supposed to accomplish and learn from one another, is complete. I do not see the ending of my marriage as a failure, but a successful masterpiece. We have built a family that will sustain a lifetime, and created five precious human beings who brighten the world. The people on the periphery of our lives reacted in fear, because of the expectations placed on our relationship. “You are married. You should be together forever. You can’t get divorced, you have children.” It was difficult to accept that our marriage was over, but it was time to stop holding my breath and let go. We had accomplished our work together. We had inhaled the wisdom from the years of our marriage and acknowledged it was time to exhale and take a new breath. When we begin with an expectation, we end with disappointment. Disappointment fosters feelings of failure, guilt and resentment. We question and regret the relationship, instead of accepting it for what it is. My expectations were not met, but I do not regret having married him. Every person and experience is a rung on our ladder of life. We keep constructing our ladder with faith as the side rails. We strive to grow that ladder as high as it will go, because every experience and interaction infuses us with knowledge. When we climb higher we transform that knowledge into wisdom. The more wisdom we acquire, the more we connect to others on a spiritual level and become discerning about who we invite into our lives. Our ladder of wisdom grows stronger and taller and our relationships become meaningful, pure and easy. I am able to look at our relationship and see it for what it is; a lesson, a period in our lives that was necessary to help us grow and see our true selves. Our life is filled with a collection of relationships, each one a tutorial on life, guiding us a little closer to the top of our ladders as we inhale a little more understanding of who we are. A Woman Should Have
by Pamela Redmond Satran A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...one old boyfriend she can imagine going back to and one who reminds her of how far she's come... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..a youth she's content to leave behind.... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age.... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...a feeling of control over her destiny... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...how to fall in love without losing herself... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...how to quit her job, break up with a lover and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...when to try harder... and when to walk away... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...that her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...what she would and wouldn't do for money or love... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...where to go...be it to her best friend's kitchen table...or a charming inn in the woods...when her soul needs soothing... EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...what she can and can't accomplish in a day...a month...and a year... Sometimes we hold on to something we love so tight because we are afraid that something so great won't happen twice. But until you learn to let go, you will never know! Our lives have ups and downs for a reason! We may never know how strong we are until being strong is the only choice we have left! At that moment, we see our foundation of faith and face all four deep hopes! To make room for more you must release some and remember, when one door closes, a window opens somewhere!
Find someone who will: Never get tired of kissing you everyday. Hug's you when you're jealous. Understandingly keeps silent when you're mad. Squeezes your hand when you're not in the mood. Plans and imagines the future with you in it and when you find someone... Never let go. Maybe your first love is the one that sticks with you because it's the only person who will ever receive all of you. After that, you learn better. But, most of all, no matter what, a piece of you forever remains left behind in the heart of the one you loved - a piece no future lover could ever get, no matter what. That piece holds innocence, the belief that love really can last forever. It holds friendship and pain, trial and error, that one kiss you'll never forget, and that night under the stars you can ever get back. It holds youth and everything you thought love would be, everything that was proven wrong. We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. It's okay to lose your pride over someone you love, but don't lose someone you love over your pride. Sometimes, in order to be happy in the present moment, you have to be willing to give up hope for a better past. I believe you can still love someone, but not like them. You love them for the person they were when they were with you, and for how they made you feel at one point. you still love them, and you might always. But you can still not like them, their personality might have changed. They might have gone the wrong way, they might have lost themselves. Or, they might have just given up on you. Or everything they believed in before. It can happen. People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway. If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway. What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway. Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway. In the final analysis it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway. Never let go of someone if they are willing to fight for you no matter what you have put them through, it's rare to find someone who loves you like that. Love isn't perfect. It isn't a fairytale or a storybook and it doesn't always come easy. Love is overcoming obstacles, facing challenges, fighting to be together, holding on and never letting go. It is a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define, and impossible to live without. Love is work, but most of all, love is realizing that every hour, every minute, every second of it was worth it because you did it together. Letting go takes love. To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself. To let go is not to care for, but to care about. To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive. To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies. To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality. To let go is not to deny, but to accept. To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it. To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be. To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. I have a dear active LDS friend. She married her high school sweetheart after waiting for him on his mission and dating him for two more years. They were married for five years…before he filed for divorce and left the church. My parents got engaged five days after their first date. They are still married. What…what?! How does that happen? I thought it was so important to know someone before you marry them and then everything works out? Well…not quite. See, after a few basic traits of ‘must haves’ and ‘can’t haves’ for the sake of compatibility, the person you marry is of little to no consequence. Why? Because they aren’t the person you will stay married to. In a study done by a Harvard psychologist, Dr. Dan Gilbert, he interviewed thousands of individuals about personal change and concluded that “all of us are walking around with an illusion, an illusion that history, our personal history, has just come to an end, that we have just recently become the people that we were always meant to be and will be for the rest of our lives.” (Read the whole TED talk here) That is because it is easier to look back and see the changes that have happened than it is to look into the future and imagine inconceivable circumstances that will surely shape us. That “illusion” that WE have already done most of our changing in life is as scientifically and rationally ridiculous as the “illusion” that we are marrying someone for the rest of our lives. I, for one, have spent so much time trying to find ‘this specific type of person,’ while completely ignoring the fact that they will be different in 5 years, 10 years, 50 years…and guess what…? So will I. And if marriage is a commitment, then, in effect, I have to choose to stay committed and married to a new person, as a new person, every day. That choice is made by work. What I do know is that my fear that I married the wrong person is completely unfounded based on the fact that I will never marry one person. So what I’m saying is that my friend is to fault and my parents are to emulate? Not at all. There are so many circumstances I can’t even pretend to understand about why one couple is together and the other isn’t. What I’m saying is that we only have one choice…and that is to continually choose to be married to the same new person over and over. And that, to me, is a lot less scary than I feared. So after looking for compatibility, love and marriage is about finding someone who is committed to change with me as we constantly become new creatures in Christ. For in the seas of change, it is only on a sure foundation that we can anchor our relationships. “When you make the sacrifice of marriage, you’re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.”
It is true that love and marriage means sacrifice, when we love someone we become selfless, devoted and we learn to accept the one we love wholeheartedly. Marriage may go in waves of ups and downs. Through these trials the love and commitment between partners are being tested, but how far would you go for the one you love? “Blind Devotion” is a masterpiece about unconditional love. The story is about when a devoted wife and her loving husband face the biggest dilemma in their lives, which will put their commitment as a couple to an ultimate test. “Sacrifice may sound awful, but it is one of the purest ways to show love to someone. Saying “I love you” is good, and necessary; but, giving of yourself, time after time, is proof that you really mean what you say.” True, Unconditional love is shown by loving someone even when they don’t want you to. |
AuthorNow into my 50's I have things to share, insights to give, and advice that might help you avoid the pitfalls I have already found. Some posts are articles that have been helpful to me and others are my own thoughts and feelings on a particular topic. May your life be full of happiness! Archives
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