I want a man who makes me feel like the most amazing woman alive. He treats me with the care and respect I deserve; he loves our children in a way that melts my heart—and every single day I can thank God that I married this man.
So what am I looking for in a guy? These 10 things:
1. Humor. Life has ups and downs, and dramas and supporting characters that we sometimes wish would vanish. So my guy should make me laugh.
2. Intelligence. Does my guy have to have an I.Q. better than Einstein’s? No, but he definitely needs to be able to relate to me on a mental level—and he should bring out my own curiosity and intellect too.
3. Physical fitness. My guy doesn’t have to leap tall buildings in a single bound—but if he takes care of himself physically, it’s a sign of self-respect.
4. Patience. Being in a relationship with me probably isn’t easy. I’m neurotic and hyperactive—and impatient. So I would be eternally grateful if I married a guy with the patience of a superhero. Trust me, if he has patience with me and my quirky qualities, it makes life that much easier.
5. Loving feeling. My husband needs to love me; truly love who I am inside and out. I want someone who really likes being with me.
6. Soulful. My guy needs to be spiritual. Being with someone with a spiritual nature is enriching to your life—and to the relationship you share. To love God first is the best way to be.
7. Commitment Lover. My ideal partner should show a level of commitment in other areas of his life besides me.
8. Good taste. Clothes and jewelry that are hand-picked by my husband not only show good taste, but that he cares. I don’t think that this has to be a requirement of a successful relationship—but it sure doesn’t hurt either.
9. Compliments. My perfect mate should spend more time highlighting what’s great about me than harping on my lesser traits; not because he’s blind to my reality, but because he loves me for who I am and knows that we live up to the standards that are set for us. In short, we grow to be our best selves in a nurturing, positive environment.
10. He doesn’t take your crap. Okay, so I do mean the above statement in number nine. However, that doesn’t mean my guy should turn his head if I treat him poorly, try to control him, or act in a way that’s beneath me. He should encourage—and if necessary demand—that I rise and shine to the occasion; that I be my best self.
Life is challenging, and a great partner should make my life easier not harder.
Finding a good guy is possible.
I won’t give up the quest!