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1/1/2015

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Why do They Leave?

We all have theories as to why men or women leave a relationship.  Studies show that Men will abandon a relationship when it’s no longer giving them what they need.  Men like to be admired for who they are.  They want respect and to see interest coming in from the opposite sex.

Dr. Lee H. Baucom explains things this way:
When a relationship gets stale, men may seek out another woman who has the newness and interest their old lover once showed.  Call it manhood, call it ego – whatever it is, you have to let your man know he’s wanted and admired in a big way or he’ll get that boost from someone else.  It isn’t right, but it is likely.

When a couple first gets together a woman is really good at letting a man know she’s interested.  She bats her eyelashes, smiles a lot, giggles, and is touchy-feely with him.

Then as time drags on, she starts going without makeup, wears sweats instead of that cute outfit she used to don for him, and because she’s no longer trying to land him, she doesn’t put as much effort into laughing at his jokes and showing interest in him.  This is the normal process of a relationship but it can be hard on a man.

Men don’t leave because they found someone prettier or thinner.  They leave to feel respected, admired and wanted again.  You’ll often hear men complain about wanting to stop being nagged to death.

It’s not the nagging that’s the problem – it’s the fact that their woman is conveying she’s somehow unsatisfied with who he is and what he has to offer, and that’s what eats away at him and drives him out of the relationship.

This doesn’t mean you can’t ever express your true feelings, but you have to balance those thoughts with an expression of love, and admiration that will feed the fire of your love.  You don’t have to sacrifice your self-respect and cater to his every whim.

Women leave for completely different reasons.  They’re loyal to the end, until they stop feeling appreciated by their man.  Men tend to think of some women as being high-maintenance because they’re needy and crave attention.

It’s not the attention they need – it’s the feeling that you appreciate everything they do – from the way she puts a little love note in your lunch to how she calls you at work just to hear your voice.

This is why women who cheat, do it with men who shower them with attention and praise for who they are and what they have to offer the world.

We often feel that the relationship ended because of constant arguing and fights.  The most common reasons men give for leaving a relationship is “No matter what I did I couldn’t make her happy!”  after so long of not being able to make his girl happy, he WILL give up and go with someone he feels HE CAN make happy.

And the message given by women?  “He doesn’t appreciate a thing I do!”

Do you see the pattern?  Take the steps necessary to create a different pattern in your relationship. It’s all about love and respect.

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