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Choose Happiness

8/13/2015

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Choose Happiness

I’m told happiness is a choice.

Unfortunately we complicate our lives to the point of being unable to recognize happiness when it appears before our eyes.

So how to clear the slate? Here are 10 things you’ll need to give up in exchange for your happiness.

1.  Give up caring what other people think of you. I know it seems counter intuitive as we humans are primal pack animals that don’t want to be cast from the village, but spending time worrying what others think, is a waste of energy. You’ll never please everyone and it’s none of your business what others think of you.

2. Give up trying to please everyone.  Unless you’re living life to the beat of your own drum, your tribe won’t be able to find you. Be the best version of you you can be, and you’ll naturally attract in the people that are supposed to surround you.

3. Give up participating in gossip. 100 percent of the time, those sharing gossip with you will gossip about you. Believing gossip is like gambling everything on a horse sight unseen. It’s naive.

4. Quit worrying. Where thoughts go, energy flows. Worry is investing time and energy in something you don’t want to have happen. Learn to let go and trust.

5. Let go of insecurity. When we take ourselves too seriously, we think everyone else does too. There is one version of you on the planet. Be it, own it and quit worrying about it. No one really cares or watches you that closely.

6. Stop taking everything personally. Truth is, most people are too consumed with their own life to really consider what you’re doing. As my first boss said so well: “The world doesn’t revolve around you. Most people’s reactions have nothing to do with you, so let it go.”

7. Give up the past. We’ve all been hurt, we all had parents that made mistakes and we’ve all been through hell. You didn’t listen to your parents when you were younger, so why are you still listening to their voices in your head now? Every experience in life has taught you something or made you stronger.

8. Give up spending money on what you don’t need in effort to buy happiness. Living simply allows the space for life to flow. We complicate our lives by spending too much money and filling our home with “things.” Less is truly more.

9. Give up anger. Anger burns a hole in the hand of the person still holding on to it. Move it out once and for all.

10. Give up control. Control is an illusion.  We live in an out of control world.  Learn to embrace the new and welcome change; otherwise you’ll grow old through your own rigidity. Learn to let go.

 

 

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Key to Happiness

8/11/2015

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Key to Happiness…..

Have you lost your key? Do you even remember what it looks like? Has it disappeared or did you give it away?

There is a key to happiness and it is easier to manage than you think.

Take 10 seconds to think about the current state of your life. What comes to mind?

Your current level of happiness can be summed up in those ten seconds…literally! Did you recall things that were positive or negative? Did you think about blessings or everything that’s going wrong? Was the focus on strengths or shortcomings?

How we think is the key to happiness. Let me repeat that, “how” we think is the key to happiness. Let me explain.

We all have struggles…we all experience rejection, setbacks and adversity. Nobody has a perfect life. Being human ensures that this will not be the case. We can have perfect moments, but we are not wired to have a perfect life.

It is how we view, deal with and move forward in life that brings about happiness – not the absence of struggle.

Happiness truly is a choice. When we focus on the positive; when we are grateful for our blessings and when we focus on our strengths…life feels better. I’m not asking you to pretend or to ignore the struggles. I’m asking you to choose to focus on all that is going right. The rest will work itself out.

So, get on out there and celebrate all of the awesomeness in your life…we ALL have something to be happy about!

 

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